My journey of friendship
Friends come in all forms. Friends can range from your mother , husband, brother, sister, colleagues, or anyone you meet. But, what is friendship? I feel that friendship is a special bond. It is when you can easily relate to someone and you understand each other on the same level.
I have always been quite sentimental when it comes to friends and not someone who goes halfway. I am generally all in or completely out if that makes sense. Friends are the one group of people who I trust to share everything with. It is great to be understood and be able to speak without being judged. I love my friends so much. I do not know what I will do without them. They are my extended growing family of special people.
I have a few special friends who I can really connect with. They mean the world to me and have been lifesavers in ways I cannot put words to. Some of my closest friends also share similar philosophies in life. This is a rarity; the gems of friendship.
In the past, I have had friends who I thought were my best friends but used or betrayed me. Those friends hardly talk to me now or just want to know what I am doing in my life and not tell me anything about themselves. I have found this incredibly hard but still tried to maintain the friendship thinking things would be the same as before but later to realize I just didn’t want to believe the truth. The ones who were not close to me initially became my close friends. This surprised me but taught me an important lesson. In life what is expected does not always happen and those who love you or appreciate you do not always voice it.
Another thing that used to always frustrate me about certain friends in the past is how someone’s words and actions do not match; this is one to look out for. A friend can do all the sweet talk but if they cannot be there or their words and actions do not match it is not genuine. A true friend is there for you when needed at the worst moments in time. They are the special ones, to never forget and treasure. They may even turn up when you least think of them and will be there by your side at the worst of your times.
My friends have always given me advice about various things. Another perspective is always helpful but sometimes it may be better to listen to your gut instinct about something as you could be right. That way there are no regrets. I have had some conflicts in myself to either listen to the voice in my head or to listen to certain friends on the odd occasion. It can be tough when trying to make decisions about certain things but it is always nice to discuss this with friends who have your back covered and want the best for you.
Finally I want to add that it is important to think of yourself as a friend, the most important friend, to look after yourself at the highest level. I tend to forget about myself. I think we all do sometimes. I have found this hard in the past and in the past tended to put friends and family before myself. However, if you don’t look after yourself, you can’t care for those around you to the best of your ability. It is always nice to treat yourself well, inside and out and to be happy and carefree.
The following is a post by David Wolfe I was tagged in recently which also has an important message. Please read and feel free to share my blog. Thanks again for encouraging me to carry on writing. This blog was a little late but took me a bit more time to work on. Happy Mothers Day to all the mothers out in the world. You are all special people. And Happy Mothers Day to my first best friend my Amma.
